Pushing those Away who Push Back

Having love for those in our lives carries a weight that many people fail to see.  It is great to have those that love you be around when you are living up to your potential and treating yourself the way those family and friends that love you think you should be treated.  This however becomes problematic when you want to just live your life the way you want and those same loved ones try to push you into being the person they know you can be.  Often times when you feel the push your first instinct is to push back and try your damnedest to show those people who love you that your life is your own.  The sad part about it is if you stop to think is that the more you think about it you realize that your life is not only your own but shared with those you love and those in it.
 Blue Octobers "Hate Me" does a good job of illustrating how this works.  The mind is a place that likes the known, it doesn't like to change because that requires it to work and analyze the possible outcomes of how these changes will affect ones life.  Which is why when the call comes for young adults and teens to step up and do what they have been preparing their whole lives to do they fight like a hermit crab to retain the shell which they have already outgrown.   Unfortunately for some unsuspecting parents and loved ones they are often the ones that are first pushed away, because they understand the true potential of the individual and are willing to try to get them to live up to it.  In some cases the methods the person who doesn't want to change will use are extreme and cause the loved ones to have to "cut" off the relationship for their own self preservation.
This however is a bit deceiving because in cutting the person off they often feel they are getting what they want, but instead they are forced to do exactly what all those loved ones wanted them to do all along.  With time comes wisdom and they begin to understand what those loved ones were trying to do and all  they are left with is regret and guilt over how they have acted.
Such is life, and in my own personal experience I have found that it is much easier to fight for things to stay the same, however much more meaningful to fight to things to change.  To not be content with things the way they are and fight them to change is often more difficult however it carries with it more meaning and more rewards.  Though I have rambled a bit  my point is we should always be fighting for changes in our lives, and pushing our loved ones.  We should equally however be mindful of when we are simply pushing those who push back.